THAT 14TH THINGY

Feb 14^th brings and means different things to different people…. Expression of love between couples, intending couples, end of relationships for some, crack in marriages for others etc

In all of these, let’s not forget that it begins with you. Do you love yourself? Is your relationship right with God? Important points that we tend to overlook…

Sometimes we try to express love to others when we haven’t loved ourselves well enough… e.g.: you know smoking is shortening the life-span of your lungs yet you just can’t stop… you are in an unhealthy relationship yet you refuse to take a walk….

That’s not loving yourself…How do you plan to love another wholeheartedly and completely when you haven’t loved yourself?

Let’s all never forget: YOU ARE YOUR FIRST LOVE AFTER GOD!

Valentine day is celebrated by some while some see it just like any other day…different folks, different strokes. To some it’s another annoying reminder that they do not have a partner or are not in a relationship, or are not in the relationship they want to be in.

Valentine’s day was a good day for me.Not just because of the gifts from potential to-be‘s (If God wills) (I hope y’all don’t read this) but also because of the love from family and friends and the funny DP’s and comments..

The essence of life is to love and be loved….God is love…

That said, my two cents on the matter:

For the couples: Expression of true love should never ever be a once in a year affair, exchanging of gifts should never just be birthdays and vals…

For the singles: I don’t believe Valentine is just for those in relationships, u feel like celebrating by all means enjoy.. U want to go out with friends don’t hesitate..GO, u want to be by yourself: stay indoors, whatever suits you…just stay happy

And for the guy who waited till Valentine’s Day to ask u out!! Jeez, whatever happened to other days, no date for you and u sure deserve a big knock on the head!!

Back then in the university, it was all about who got the biggest gift, the most expensive gift etc and I remember how girls used to be so shy and self-conscious…. To think I would hide my gifts to avoid analysis by the ‘frenemies’ (For lack of a better word) while I had a friend who would say babe you got gifts, stop hiding them joor, let’s see at least u got gifts.

I guess some people still see it that way: remember it is more blessed to give than to receive..

I realize, it’s not about the size or how expensive or valuable to you a gift is, it is absolutely the thought behind it… so think again before accepting the ticket to Abu dhabi or ‘Darey’s Love like a movie’ and you chill at his place thereafter from the guy who hasn’t married you and is giving you that as valentine gift, cos the thought behind that is to …..   (Fill in the Gap)

Think again before receiving the gift from the married man who just likes you (he claims)

Think again before accepting that expensive gift from the person you are not to be unequally yoked with and who is talking, marriage… Why lead him on? Avoid an acid bathe in the future

Back to Valentine gift and as it is a season for couples, don’t rush into that relationship because you just love him, he swept you off your feet and you are in cloud nine…. I have now come to realize that a soul mate is your personal mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls, see your good, bad and downright ugly and love you all the same…

That said: Valentine's Day, Mother's day, Father's day, Wedding day, Birthday, Friday.....Somehow we hardly ever think of Judgment day? Today is earmarked for expression of love between couples and those in relationship. But let’s not forget that love should be a standard character that must be expressed throughout the year, not only to your loved ones but even to neighbours and strangers.

God is love and we should walk in his footsteps:

"Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you."

~ Luke 6:27, ESV

"Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them~ Romans 12:14, ESV

."  (It’s especially hard when you lean to your own understanding, but by grace, this becomes effortless)

So help us God... Amen!

Happy Belated Valentine!!

Yours truly….xx